The Forming of a Family - Notes

These are the notes for my story. I don't know if they'll make a lot of sense to anyone, but here they are if you are interested. Errors and all.

• My wife and I are "sub-fertile"
• We're open to adoption
• Living in bartlesville
• Winter/spring 97
• Christain services of Ok
• Carter
• Went to orientation meeting whole day learning about process
• Talking to birth mother
• Homestudies - interview
• Background check
• Published self through self net
• Complete paperwork
• 2 months
• Phone call from college friends
• Lance Boyd in atlanta
• Just overheard message on church answer mashine
• Mother delivering in a couple of months
• Had received letter
• Called home left message
• When played message said, "Wow! But there was something we hadn't thought about, the baby was bi-racial."
• Aa/ca
• Didn't think about races when filled out paper work
• 2 or 3 in line
• "We were just very prayerful about. 'Do we want to bring a bi-racial baby into our home? Is that going to be ok?' […] Basicly our prayer was, 'Lord if it's your will let it happen. We're just going to let it go. And if it's not your will it won't happen'"
• Over the course of 2 months took top spot
• Didn't feel any reason we should pursue it
• 1 week before birth we headed out for Georgia in a blue Nissan Centra
• Stayed in jill's parents in ark
• Nash brother
• Ge nov 17 stayed with boyd's wife's parents home
• On 18 got call from dr
• 5 pm baby born
• Legal proceeding had to take first
• Picked up baby on 20
• "He was the only baby in the nursery at the time, that we saw. He was getting a bath and just screaming like crazy, hating that. It was just such a special moment because you know you're leaving the hospital with a baby that day."
• "The nurse even showed us, gave us a few tips on how to give her a bath while she still had part of her umbilical cord attached. I was nervous driving back through Atlanta traffic"
• Interlock Tory decree forced to stay in Ark for a while
• Finalized 2 years later
• Amelia Ann Martin
• Struggled with names
• Ann wife's and mother's middle name
• Every once in awhile get a double take
• "It's been great"
• 1 year 2 months later Jill had baby
• "That was the biggest surprise of all this stuff"
• "I was just awestruck. I could not believe it, because we already had a baby now, here we are, going to have 2 babies"
• "been a blessing"
• Hallie Margret
• Saved money first time 10 - 12 thousand
• 4 or 5 year decided to adopt again through CS
• Told them this time we wanted to adopt bi-racial
• Wasn't within 2 month had all paper work done
• Aug 2003 got a fax at work
• 1 week before school started
• Baby had already been born
• Tuscaloosa, AL
• Healthy
• Mother had previously placed baby wanted to place this one
• Jill and kids in Chicago visiting friends
• "I called Jill in Chicago and I think my words were, 'Jill, I've found the perfect baby for us.'"
• Martin and mom drove to Montgomery, Al
• Jill and girls flew to Birmingham, al
• Only there 1 night maybe 2
• 6 week premature
• Just now 5 or 6 pound
• Had a few health issues related to being premature, but grew out
• Since we requested bi-racial it was easier to place
• Went smother 2nd time
• Girls watch out for Quin
• Quinton Scott Martin
• "Every once in awhile it is something that you think about, but we've never had any negative, it's all been positive"
• 9, 8, 3
• Now home schooled
• When time for Quin started praying, 'Lord if it is your will for us to adopt we just ask that you find a way for it to happen'
• Great Aunt Helen bought bonds for nieces and nephews
• Gave it to them about 10,000
• "We pray for wisdom and guidance in raising them."
• Willing for children to have contact with birth parents
• Will be supportive for children's contact with birth parents
• "We feel like we're done right now"
• "The girls were old enough to be in on the excitement."